December 11, 2011
Can You Relate?, Inspiration
12-steps, aa, acceptance, addiction, al-anon, alcholism, alcoholics anonymous, co-dependency, guilt, humility, inspiration, mental health, pain, searching, shame, sobriety
As a practicing drunk, I had put my friends into two different categories: the People I Drink With and the People I Didn’t Drink With. To avoid conflict, I kept them away from each other as much as possible. I felt only anxiety around the People Who Didn’t Drink; I laughed–a lot–with the People Who Drink.
The non-drinkers didn’t know me at all.
- They didn’t know that I would lie to my husband about where I’d been or who I was with.
- They didn’t know that every morning before getting out of bed, I’d be thinking back on the night before, trying to remember if I did anything embarrassing (again) and who I needed to avoid for a while.
- They didn’t know that when I made them a promise and then broke it, it was because More
September 11, 2011
Tools of the Process
12-steps, aa, al-anon, alcholism, alcoholics anonymous, anxiety, co-dependency, Fourth Step, guilt, mental health, powerless, resentment, searching, shame, therapy
It’s common for persons involved in 12-step programs to seek professional help on occasion. The 12-step programs never claim to be, nor should they be, the end-all of recovery.
Although an active member of my 12-step group, I decided to seek help in the form of therapy during a particularly trying time in my life. I was facing decisions I had never had to consider before and instinctively knew I would need help. During the course of that help, I came to realize the role Shame has had in my life. I never knew just how much of the shame I felt wasn’t even mine!
I was very fortunate to have a therapist who was fully versed in the family disease of alcoholism and knew exactly how to help me. Part of that help included More